Jun
11

Abbot Tryphon – graceful love (not therapy) is needed

Self-Appointed Therapists: When correcting others becomes a form of abuse Abbot Tryphon in The Morning Offering (11 June 2016) When focusing on the sins of others, we set for ourselves the mission of correcting them. We see ourselves as called to help this poor, unfortunate one by pointing out their sins, and telling them how they can be a better person. We are not being critical, but helpful, we tell ourselves. "Don't take Read more…

Jun
04

A Case Study in Church Division – and repentance

This article, "The Widowmaker Repents", recently appeared in my Facebook Newsfeed.  It's a couple years old, but still well worth the read. One of the challenges of Orthodoxy in America is that so many of our parishes were founded out of schism.  Whether the split was from Rome (as is the case for so many parishes now with the OCA, UOC-USA, and Carpatho-Russians) or not, the legacy of division is often generations of toxicity, Read more…

Jun
03

GGWB Podcast – Facebook Page

The Good Guys Wear Black Podcast now has Facebook Page.  I'll post episodes (and other interesting things) there. Read more…

May
28

About Wearing Cassocks and Other Good Habits

About Wearing Cassocks and Other Good Habits Fr. Lawrence Farley May 27, 2016, No Other Foundation I am a great fan of the BBC series “Call the Midwife”, which features a group of Anglican sisters working among the poor in a London neighbourhood as midwives. Their order is fictional, but is based upon the actual order and London experiences of the Community of St. John the Divine, then working in London and now moved to Birmingham. Read more…

Apr
18

A Few Thoughts on Narcissism in the Priesthood

One of the most popular (and useful) GGWB articles of all time is "Signs in a Congregation That a Leader Has Covert Narcissistic Personality Disorder"  If you look at the comments to that article, you will see indicators of something that researchers have confirmed: 1) the proportion of pathological narcissism among clergy is extraordinarily high (this survey of Presbyterian clergy in Canada found that 30% had NPD!); and 2) narcissistic Read more…

Apr
11

Nine Secrets Your Pastor’s Wife Wishes You Knew

by Christina Stolaas She’s always there. Sometimes in the background, sometimes with a welcoming smile up front, sometimes noticed and appreciated, sometimes being silently judged. Your pastor’s wife; the powerful force behind most church leaders often perceived as a mystery by the rest of the church. It doesn’t have to be that way. What if we just asked our pastor’s wife to candidly, honestly, even anonymously share some of their Read more…

Mar
31

Fr. Andrew Damick (AFR) – Is it Wrong to Want to be a Priest?

Fr. Andrew Damick (my friend and neighbor) hits the nail on the head (actually, several nails).  Orthodoxy is pastoral, but it seems to be populated by some people that love dogmatizing particular advice and ridiculing those who go against it.  It is certainly true that the discernment process takes place in the Church and that not everyone who feels called to the priesthood really is, but that hardly means that we should staff our Read more…